Therefore every couple should take the trouble of exploring those regions of each other’s anatomy that will arouse their desires and heighten their pleasure. These areas are known as the “erogenous zones”. They vary from person to person but are generally concentrated in the upper body are and the below the naval, if stroked tenderly, cause the sexual desires to rise and passions to be kindled.
Even in this regard we find the beautiful teaching of Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) a guidance for us; that in very subtle manner he impressed upon his companions (Radiyallahu-Anhum) importance and necessity of foreplay with the wife. For example:-
It is narrated in the Ahadith that once Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) came to know that Hazrat Jabir “(Radiyallhu-Anhum) had married a widow. He said: “Why did you not marry a virgin whom you could play with and Who would play with you?” (BUKHARI, MUSLIM).
This is a subtle indication towards love play or foreplay between the couple.
Furthermore, the importance of expressing love and feelings towards each other can be learned from the Ahadith of Rasulullah(Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) that go to this effect that when a husband or wife gaze at each other with love and affection, Allah (Azza-wa-Jall) gazes at them with mercy and kindness. When the husband and wife hold each others hands with love and affection, Allah Ta’ala forgives their sins.
If the wife is breast-feeding, caution should be observed that no milk enters the throat during the course of loveplay. It is Makroohe-Tahrimi for the husband to drink the milk of his wife. If any person, out of ignorance has transgressed this regulation of the Shariah, the only form of expiation is a sincere taubah and repetance. However, this does not affect the bond of nikah as is the misconception of many people.
5. RECITATION OF DUA
For the protection from shaitaan and other harms, it is important to recite the Masnoon Duas at the time of intercourse. In this way the couple and their progeny will be protected from much harm.
The respective duas for this occasion are as follows:-
1. AT THE TIME OF COMMENCING WITH INTERCOURSE:-
TRANSLATION:-
“In the name of Allah, O Allah! Save us from Shaitaan and prevent shaitaan from that which you grant us”.
2. AT THE TIME OF EJACULATION TRANSLATION
“O Allah! Do not grant shaitaan any share of that which you have granted me”.
Note:- 1. At the time of ejaculation, the dua should be recited in the mind only, not verbally.
3. Both husband and wife should recite the dua.
It is reported that if a person does not recite these duas, Shaitaan participates with him in the act of coitus and derives pleasure from his wife.
Not reciting the dua is also a cause for rebellious and disobedient progeny as is observe in our times. Shah Abdul-Haq Dehlawi (Rahimahumullah) states in this regard: “If a prayer like this is not made at the time of coitus and only the sexual urge is fulfilled like the animals; the child that is born out of such a union will not be saved from the evil influence of Shaitaan. This is one of the main reasons that the morals of the present generation are not good.” (RIFAATUL-MUSLIMEEN).
Another point of significance is the importance of Zikr in the life of a Mumin (Believer). Unlike other religious, Islam regards even mudane activities as acts of worship (Ibadah) and obedience (Ta’aat) if carried out under the regulations of Shariah, with the correct intention and with the Zikr of Allah (Azza-wa-Jall). Thus what would normally be a debased act in other religions, is a noble act of worship and obedience that is rewardable in Islam.
These duas serve to develop Allah-consciousness and piety in a Muslim. It is highly imperative that every couple endeavour to learn, memorise and recite these duas at the appropriate time. A little effort and sacrifice of time is required, but the returns are enormous and far-reaching.
6. CORRECT TIMES
It is important that cohabitation take place at the correct times in order to ensure good health for the couple as well as their child-to-be, Allah willing.
The act of intercourse should ideally take place when there is a state of relaxation and temperamental balance in both husband and wife. Any form of tension or pressure in the form of hunger, thirst, anger, depression- illness, etc. will dampen the pleasure.
Faqih Abdul-Laith Samarqandi (Rahimahumullah) writes in his book BUSTAN that the correct time for intercourse is the latter part of the night because the stomach is full during the early part of the night and intercourse is undesirable on a full stomach. It is thus clear that intercourse is undesirable in the early hours of the night. The same has been recorded in TIBBE-NABAWI.
The author of IHYA observes that it is Makrooh to have sexual relations in the earlier part of the night because the possibility of spending the rest of the night in the state of Janabat(Ritual uncleanliness).
Hazrat Aisha (Radiyallahu-Anhum) reports that it was the noble habit of Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) that after completing the witr Salah at the end of the night, he would consort with his wife if he is desire. If not, he would lay down on the musalla(prayer rug) until Hazrat Bilal (Radiyallahu-Anhum) would call out the Azaan for the Fajr Salah (Morning prayer).
It should be noted that the prohibition of sexual intercourse in the earlier part of the night is merely from a medical and health point of view. It is not a ruling of the Shariah. It is reported that Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) cohabited at various times of the day and night. (SHAMIAL-TIRMIZI
For those that find it inconvenient to wait for the end of the night(for whatever reason), a practical solution is to have a light meal early in the evening, perhaps before Maghrib. In this way the Stomach will not be full at the time of cohabitation in the earlier part of the night.
It is the experience of wise men that the result of sexual intercourse on a full-stomach is a dull, backward child. Furthermore, it is even harmful to the health of the male.
PREFERABLE TIMES
As much as it is important to observe the correct times, it is also important to observe the preferable times for intercourse to attain maximum benefit, especially for the child-to-be.
Hazrat Ali (Radiyallahu-Anhum) observes in WSAYA: “The result of conception as a result of copulation;
-On Monday night, is a child that will be a Qari;
-On Tuesday, a generous, big-hearted child;
-On Thursday, an upright, Allah-fearing Aalim or a wise, sagacious child;
-On Friday before Juma, a child born with luck and fortune who will attain martyrdom at death;
-On Friday night, a sincere child-RIFAATUL-MUSLIMEEN
N.B. By night is meant the Islamic night, which precedes the day.
8. PERMISSIBLE POSITIONS
The human body takes on three postures most naturally; i.e. standing, sitting (or squatting) and laying down. As far as the positions of sexual intercourse are concerned, Islam has granted general permission provided that no unnatural act such as anal sex is performed.
How ever from medical point of view, sex in the standing position is undesirable (a complete chapter on this issue further ahead)
Thus two postures remain; the sitting or squatting posture and the sleeping posture. In this regard, there are certain subtle indications in the Quran and Hadith.
For example, in one verse of the Quran, Allah Ta’ala states:-
“It is He who created you from a single person, and made his mate thereof, in order that he may take comfort in her. Then when he covered her, she bore a light burden….” (7/189).
This is when a women lies in the supine position; while the man’s body lies over her in manner that he covers her body with his.
In the Hadith explaining the manner of ghusal, the following method of sexual union is alluded to:
“….When any of you sits between the four portions of a woman and then exerts himself upon her…..”
There is a difference of opinion as far as the interpretation of “four portions of a woman” is concerned. This seems to refer to the position in which a woman lifts her knees and the man enters her in a sitting/squatting posture, in which instance her thighs and calfs form the “four portions”. And Allah knows best.
Furthermore, any other posture or position, husband and wife desire to choose, is quite in order. Once Hazrat Umar (Radiyallahu-Anhum) had intercourse with his wife through rear entry (not anal entry). Later he was overtaken by the thought that perhaps he had committed an undesirable act. Immediately he rushed off to Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Aalyhi-Wasallam) calling out: “I have destroyed, I have been destroyed….! “He was asked what was the matter, to which he recounted his fear of having committed an undesirable act. Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi-Wasallam) remained silent, giving no answer. Some time later, these verses of the Quran were revealed:
“Your wives are a tillage (farm) unto you, thus approach your tillage from wherever you wish”. (2/223).
Thereafter Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) explained the purport of this verse: that intercourse is permissible in any position, from front or rear, so long as anal sex does not place, for that is haram. The example of the Quran for women is that of a farm; which can be approached from any direction, provided the seeds are planted only in the farm and not elsewhere!
Similarly any method of approach is permissible, whether husband is on the wife or vice-versa, or whether they are on their sides or from the rear, whether sleeping flat or whether squatting, all positions are permissible, so long as his “seeds” are planted in the “farm” and not else where.
There was a false notion; a baseless superstition that the Jews of Madina entertained as far as rear entry was concerned. According to them, the child born out of such union would be squint eyed. Some Muslims were misled by this myth of the Jews. When the above-mentioned were verse of the Quran was revealed, all such false conceptions were shattered and demolished for once and all.
9.AFTER-PLAY
Almost as important as foreplay and the actual act of intercourse, is the termination and conclusion of the act of copulation, which could be termed as “after play”. Many times, it happens that the husband reaches climax earlier than the wife (some women attain climax after quite a while). In such a case the husband should remain in her until she achieves climax and satisfaction. This is absolutely vital and essential for the satisfaction of the wife. Disengaging before the wife achieves climax is cruel and selfish and breeds animosity and contempt in the wife’s heart for her husband.
Furthermore, disengaging immediately after sexual union often gives the woman an impression that the man is only interested in her to gratify his lust and is merely “using” her. This is bound to affect martial harmony.
Hazrat Ali (Radiyallahu-Anhum) says in this regard:
“Await the completion (climax) of the wife before disengaging, otherwise she will become your enemy.” (RIFAATUL-MUSLIMEEN).
10. HEALTH CONSCIOUSNESS
Just as important as cleanliness in before cohabitation, so is it’s importance thereafter. In this regard, a few important guidelines, if practiced diligently, would not only entail cleanliness and purity but also ensure good health and saviour from many disease and illnesses.
The author of SHURATUL-ISLAM states that the male and female should form the habit of passing water after intercourse, else they will fall victim to an un curable and fall to an un curable and fatal disease. The reason and explanation of the above statement in the books of “Tibb” (Islamic Medical Sciences) is that at times a drop or few of semen remains within the canal, which leads too certain ailments. By urination, the canal is cleared of all such drops. A statement of a similar nature is reported from Hazrat Ali RA.
Faqih Abul-Laith Samarqandi(Rahimahumullah) states that after intercourse, the sexual organs should be washed clean as this will ensure good health. However, immediately after copulation, the male should not wash with cold water as this could result in fever. Either Warm water should be used or after an interval, when the body temperature has returned to equilibrium, even cold water could be used.
Further more, Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) taught the Sahaba that they should wash themselves after cohabitation otherwise they might contract a disease that may be difficult to cure.
Immediately after copulation, no liquid should be consumed. This results in the illness of short breath. Therefore copulation should be avoided on a full-stomach. This causes dryness (Khushki) with in the body and results in thirst, whence liquids cannot be resisted, the harm of which has just been explained above.
Thereafter, both husband and wife should wipe themselves dry with a separate cloth. Wiping with the same cloth results in marital conflict and discord-RIFAATUL-MUSLIMEEN on the authority of Hazrat Ali (Radiyallahu-Anhum).
11. CONCEAL PRIVATE MATTERS
A very shameless trend has emerged nowadays where members of both the sex narrate the details of their sexual encounters to friends and associates. This goes totally contrary to the dictates of Haya and modesty; the outstanding branch of Iman. Such action should be shunned totally. This also gives others an opportunity to meddle in the private affairs of the couple. This is an extremely sinful and detestable act in the sight of Allah.
“Amongst the worst of people in Allah’s sight on the day on Qiyamah is that husband who indulges in privacy with his wife and then reveals her to others” (MUSLIM ).
12. MORE THAN ONCE
If the couple wish to engage in sexual intercourse more than once then it is best that they take a bath before the second coitus. If not, then at least to perform wudhu. If not they should at least wash their genitals clean.
It is the experience of the elders that a person who re-engages in sexual intercourse without doing any of the above, the resultant off-spring will be mentally-retarded or will be niggardly in nature.
The author of IHYA emphasizes that the least every couple should do before re-engaging in sexual intercourse is to pass water and wash their genitals clean without this they should not indulge in sex. The result will be harmful and detrimental to them.
13. NUDITY
Total nudity during coition has been prohibited in Islam. Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) has enlikened such an action to that of asses cohaviting in public.
The progeny of such a couple will certainly turn out to be shameless and immoral.
14. FACING QIBLAH
During intercourse, precautions should be taken that the Qiblah is not faced. This is regarded as an act of disrespect (be-adabi) and should therefore be avoided as far as possible.
Similarly, facing the feet in the direction of Qiblah, during intercourse or any other time is an undesirable practice. This should always be borne in mind.
15. INCORRECT POSITIONS
The various permissible positions have been discussed already under the relevant section (chapter 5.0). The standing posture, although permissible, is undesirable for intercourse due to health reasons.
The author of TIBBUN-NABAWI writes that coitus in the standing posture causes the body to become weak. It also causes harm to the nerves and veins. He further writes that coitus on a full-stomach results in dim-witted, dull-minded progeny.
Coitus in the standing position also causes the condition of Ra’sha (perpetual Tremor). This is probably due to damage of the nerves and nervous-system.
16. UNDESIRABLE ACTS
It is undesirable to talk excessively during intercourse. Talk should be limited to bare necessity. Islam advocates dignity even at such occasions. Faqih Abul-Laith Samarqandi writes in his book BUSTAN that excessive speech during coitus could be the cause of dumbness in the off-spring to be. This habit should be shunned.
It is undesirable for both the partners to look at each others genitals. The author of SHRATUL-ISLAM writes that looking (habitually) at the private parts of the woman could result in blind off-spring.
Although it is permissible for the husband and wife to look at every part of each others’ anatomy, it is an undesirable act from the moral point of view. Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) never looked at Hazrat Aisha (Radiyallahnu-Anhum), nor did she look at him (at the private area).
Many of the Ulema are of the opinion that looking at the wife’s gentials causes the eye- sight to weaken.
17.EXCESSIVE SEX
Islam promotes a life of balance and equilibrium. There is no place for extremes in any facets of life. This spirit of moderation permeates every teaching of Islam. Thus even in the issue of sexual relations, moderation would be the ideal recourse from the Islamic point of view.
In this regard, the learned elders advice that the stimulus towards sexual desire should be analysed and scrutinized carefully. If the stimulus is found to be related to an external source such as the sight of an attractive, shapely woman, sexually inciting conversations, pornographic material, etc; then this to be regarded as a false stimulus and should be ignored. This is a case of “artificial” desire.
On the other hand, if the stimulus is internal, the passion and desire growing from within, then it should be regarded as a case of genuine desire and hence to be satisfied. A feeling of gratification, fulfillment, satisfaction and serenity will be the result of such a union. Where as coition due to a false stimulus will cause weakness, restlessness and even physical damage to the human body.
Faqih Abul-Laith Samarqandi (Rahimahumullah) reports from Hazrat Ali (Radiyallahu-Anhum) in his BUSTAN that the person that desires to maintain his good health for many years to come should:
Eat in the mornings and evenings only
Abstain from taking loans and debts (as these will cause him much anxiety and worries)
Desist from walking around bare-footed.
Reduce sexual intercourse to bare minimum.
Excessive sexual intercourse results in the condition of premature ejaculation arising, which in turn is the root to man physical, psychological and marital frustrations for both the husband and wife, with far—reaching repercussions. It should be avoided at all costs for a happy and stable marriage.
18. HOW OFTEN?
In the previous chapter, the importance of moderation and the harms of excessive sexual intercourse have been highlighted. The question arises as to what could be termed as moderation and how often should sexual intercourse take place in the ideal marriage?
It is difficult to pronounce a hard and fast rule as far as this question is concerned. The answer will vary from individual to individual, keeping in mind the need of both husband and wife. However a general guideline in this regard should serve as a source of guidance.
According to scholars once a week is acceptable and falls within the ambit of moderation.
Hakeem Jalinoos was once asked by someone how often should a person engage in sexual intercourse. He replied: Once in a lifetime. When he was asked again, he replied: Once every year. Once more he was asked. He replied: Once a month. He was asked for a final time. He replied: Once a Week and a person that goes beyond this doesn’t deserve to be counted amongst the living!(indicating there by that he would be better off dead than alive due to the illnesses and weakness that would make his life miserable).
Hakeem Jalinoos was asked: What is true desire? He replied. When a person cannot differentiate between sky and earth, that is true desire! Inn other words, the desire and urge is very strong and vehement…
Even in the Ahadith there is a subtle indication where regarding Jumma the words: “Ghasala wa wa Ghassala” are used; indicating that where a person takes a bath himself on Fridays, he causes his partner also to take a bath (due to coitus). And Jumma comes once every week, hence coitus aught to take place once a week. And Allah knows best.
19. PROHIBITED TIMES
The author of IHYA states:-
It is Makrooh to indulge in sex during three nights of each month; the first, the last and fifteenth. It is said that Shaitaan is on the prowl on these nights. The undesirability of sex on these nights is narrated from Hazrat Ali, Hazrat Mulawiya and Hazrat Abu Huraiah (Radiyallahu-Anhum).
The author of RIFAATUL-MUSLIMEEN states that in addition to the above; Wednesday nights and the nights of the two Eids must also be avoided. Also the night where after a person intends to go on a journey on the next day should be avoided. Intercourse on these nights may have an undesirable effect on the off-spring.
It is reported in TIBBE-NABAWI that Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) advised Hazrat Ali (Radiyallahu-Anhum) not to cohabit on the fifteenth night as the shayateen appear in large number on this night.
In a footnote of SHAMAIL-TIRMIZI it is stated that if the child is conceived during salah times (When the salah is neglected), the result will be a disobedient child.
20. FANTASISING
Due to the corrupt and immoral environment most people are living in these days, exposure to all kinds of shameless filth in the form of videos, TV, films, plays, newspapers, magazines and even telephone lines (087..no’s) has become a common trend.
Hence many men and women indulge in fantasizing about others during sexual intercourse with their own partners. This is totally haram and a grave sin in Islam. It ressembles zina and could veritably be termed the zina of the heart or mind!
This point in clearly verified from a Hadith of Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) that reads:” To gaze at a strange (ghair mahram) woman is zina (adultery) of the eyes;
To listen to passion stirring words is zina of the ears,
To converse with a strange woman (and derive pleasure there from) is zina of the tongue,
To touch a strange women is zina to the hands,
To walk towards her is zina of the feet,
The heart desires and craves;
The sexual organ then either testifies to these or denies them”. (Muslim).
N.B. The “desire and craving of the heart” as mentioned in this Hadith refers to fantasizing.
21. ANAL SEX
Just as sex is prohibited during menstruation, anal sex, even though with one’s own partner is strictly prohibited in the Shariah
This abominable deed has been denounced very emphatically by Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) in various Ahadith.
“The person that has anal sex with his, Allah (Rabbul-Izzat) will not look at him with mercy on the day of Qiyamah.” ().Hadith
“The person that has anal sex with his wife is Mal’oon (accursed)” (ABU-DA’UD).
Imam Ghazzali (Rahimahumullah) writes in IHYA that anal sex is even worse than sex during menstruation because this filthy act causes undue pain and difficulty to the woman.
Even the male could become victim to various diseases and illnesses, some of them fatal and extremely deadly. Today, medical research has discovered that the greatest risk factor of contracting AIDS-the killer disease of the century-is anal sex; with or without protection! May we be sacrificed upon Allah and his Rasul for protecting our lives and health by strictly prohibiting us from this inhuman act.
22.SEX DURING MENSTRUATION
The Quran has emphatically prohibited sexual intercourse during menstruation:
“Abstain (sexually) from women during menstruation” (2/222).
ALLAH (Rabbul-Izzat), the Creator of man, knows best what is beneficial and what is harmful to man. All objects of harm have been forbidden for man because they will cause him difficulty and harship. Sexual intercourse during menstruation falls into thiscategory.
Today, many centuries later, medical science has discovered that the flow of menstruation contains certain toxic matters that could be detrimental if they gain entry into the body of the male or is prevented a clear passage of flow from the body of the female-both of which could easily occur if sexual intercourse takes place during intercourse. It would thus pose a potential threat to both husband and wife. This very act is a major contributing factor towards very painfuland often fatal veneral diseases. In fact, it’s effect is passed on even to the foetus.
PREMATURE EJACULATION
Premature ejaculation is a sexual problem that could adversely affect the marriage. In premature ejaculation, semen is discharged immediately or very shortly after the commencement of sexual activity-within 30 to 60 seconds- whereas the normal period aught to be 2 to 3 minutes.
Due to this condition, the woman remains sexually unsatisfied and this could lead to a problematic marital relationship. Furthermore, it is also a cause of not being able to have children. These have serious implications on the marriage and thus this situation needs to be remedied as swiftly as possible.
There are two fundamental causes to this problematic condition:
Thinness of semen
Weakness of nerves in the private organ; both these conditions can be remedied with suitable and authentic medical treatment.
As for as thinness of semen is concerned, certain suitable foods and vitamins (Refer Chapter 8) should ease the problem. Also excessive sex should most definitely be avoided as this will cause thinness of the semen and weaken the nerves of the private organ which are the primary causes of premature ejaculation and eventually, sexual impotency.
According to Hakeem Razi excessive sex will cause:
Young men to become old.
Old men to “Sleep” forever (i.e. death)
Healthy men to become weak and sick
Weak and Sick men to perish;
Therefore, until a strong, genuine, and persistent urge to indulge in sexual intercourse does not exist, it should be avoided at all costs.
SEXUAL POTENCY
The level of sexual potency varies from nation to nation, individual to individual. There are numerous factors that are influential in this regard. Even geographical and climatic conditions play their role. People of hot and humid areas such as the Arabs tend to have a higher drive than those from cold, wet areas. Some men are extremely virile while others have low libido. The same applies to women. However, on an overall basis, women have a considerably a lower sexual urge than men.
In certain instances when the woman has a higher sexual drive than a man, certain marital and health problems could arise. If this state of affairs is not remedied soon enough, the woman begins to despise and ridicule her husband and may even begin to flirt and incline towards other men, Allah forbid! The man should therefore utilize foods and vitamins that will enhance his flagging libido and hence improve his sexual life. In this way, the marriage will be saved from many calamities.
VITAMINS FOR POTENCY
Our food and diet plays the central role in sexual potency or impotency. Food is digested and converted into healthy or unhealthy blood. This blood then is converted into semen, the lifeblood of man’s sexual activities. It is therefore imperative that such foods be ingested that become a source of healthy blood and semen. Such foods that will grant strength to the body, the mind and the heart after sexual indulgence; because sexual indulgence weakens the human body considerably.
An assortment of various suitable foods for sexual potency are now presented:
GRAINS:-
Wheat
Chana
Peas
Beans
Rice
Sesame seeds (Tal)
GREENS
Onions
Garlic
Bindha
Pumpkin, Gourds
Turnips
Beetroot
Carrots
Potato
Ginger
Coconut
FRUITS
Grapes
Mango
Pomegranate
Bananas
Figs
Apple
Pineapples
Sweet-Melons
Guavas
NUTS AND SNACKS
Cashews
Peanuts
Wall nuts
Chilgoza
Dates
Raisins
Olives
Sultanas
Honey
ANIMALS
All Halaal Birds
Chicks (baby chickens)
Pigeon
Duck
Fish
Red Meats
Liver
DAIRY PRODUCTS
Milk
Sour Milk
Yogurt
Butter
Cheese
SPICES
Black pepper
Safron
Elachi
Lawang
Jaifal
Itr (Perfumes)
Hazrat Ali (Radiyallahu-Anhum) reports that once a person complained to Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) that he had no children (probably due to lack of potency). Rasulullah(Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) advised him to eat eggs.
On one occasion Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) complained to Hazrat Jibraeel (Alayhimus-Salaam) replied that he should eat Harisah, for it has the strength of 40 men. Harisah is a kind of thick soup made of crushed wheat, mixed with meat, butter, certain spices, etc.
HARMFUL FOODS
The following foods adversely affect sexual potency:
All sour fruits
Pickles (Achaar)
Chutneys
Amli
Vinegar
Red Chillies
“Hot” Spices
Tea, Coffee, Caffeine Products
Saunf
SEX-RELATED ILLNESSES, HEALTH HAZARDS AND GENERAL ISSUES
To indulge in any unnatural form of sexual gratification and to prevent the natural flow of semen results in veneral diseases and other related disorders.
Excessive sex, “filthy” literature, pornographic material, “dirty” thoughts, fantasizing, etc. Cause a flow of Mazee (liquish matter preceding semen) to occur. This results in the semen becoming thin, which in turn causes premature ejaculation- a vicious chain-reaction of sexual problems!
Moderate (or bare minimum) sexual indulgence is the key to good health and a happy life.
Sour foods in abundance causes premature ejaculation.
Sex during fever causes the fever to become excessive and could result in delirium.
Immediately after sexual activity, partaking place where the sudden appearance of any strange person is very likely, is undesirable and causes weakness to the body and nerves. Besides the harm, no pleasure is derived from such sexual indulgence.
Sex on a full-stomach results in premature ejaculation. Besides this, weakness of stomach, indigestion, swelling of the liver and stomach are some of the resultant problems of the above-mentioned act.
Curbing the urge to urinate and indulging in sex in this condition cause infection and harm to the kidneys, bladder and urinary tract. Similarly to suppress the urge to defaecate and indulge in sex cause piles and other rectal problems. These should be avoided at all costs.
To indulge in sex when the eye is sore results in the swelling and whitening of the eye.
Even when the woman’s eye is sore, sex should be avoided. Hazrat Umma-Salma (Radiyallahu-Anhum reports that if any of the Holy wives’ eyes were sore, Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) would not indulge in intimacy with them until they were cured. (JAMI-E-KABEER).
N.B. From this Hadith it is learnt that if the woman is ill or in pain and agony, sexual intercourse should be avoided. Besides further deterioration of her health, it may strain relationships between husband and wife and no pleasure or satisfaction will be derived from such intimacy.
If the woman makes istinja with cold water before sexual intercourse, she will be aroused and climax quicker than normal. On the other hand, the man will slow down and slacken if he makes istinja with cold water. He should thus avoid doing so immediately before sexual relations.
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